I never thought I’d be posting on here again. I thought the last one I would do would be for when Dip died.
When Piggy died, I decided to keep our memories of her private. However, I realized I’ve now buried three dogs in the past four years.
I’ve dug all their graves, and was immediately present when two of them were put down.
We didn’t know you as well or as for long as Dip and Piggy, but you deserve some kind of remembrance, Sunny, if for no other reason than so I can tell my children what you were like when their immediate recollections of you fade.
First and foremost, you were Abby’s dog. She’s the only one old enough right now to understand what happened, and she always said you were her friend. She wanted me to tell that to them so they would know in the hopes it would persuade them.
She’s having a very hard time processing everything and her Mom told me she went right to your grave after getting home from school.
She didn’t want to leave you this morning when she had to go to school and she knew it would be the last time she’d see you.
It is impossible for a child that young to understand all of the decisions that had to be reached in order to do the terrible thing we had to do this morning, and as an adult, I’m not even sure I understand everything or can justify it.
All I know is that I did my best and tried my best to keep you alive.
Still, there’s this nagging sense that we could have done more. We could have, but it was completely impractical. I did the best I could in a bad situation and it just didn’t work out.
The worst part was it wasn’t like Dip or Pig when we knew it was time and they already had full lives.
You were still so young, but the last couple of months had really taken their toll.
You had lost so much weight, you weren’t eating, you were lethargic, and you were pooping uncontollably everywhere in the house. It reminded me of what Piggy was like in her last days.
Yet, when we were getting ready to go to the vet, despite being sedated, you still managed to get up off of your bed and walk to the door and were wagging your tail when you entered the vet’s office, as if you couldn’t wait to see and smell what was inside.
You had an amazing sense of smell. Your Mom thought you were part hound and part cat.
She hated your ears though. She called them “wonky” this morning after you were gone and she was lightly playing with them. It was good to see she really did love you, though you made both of us so frustrated and caused so many problems.
But that wasn’t the real you. The real you was the dog we had for almost two years who was the most athletic dog I’ve ever seen. Who would easily clear our backyard fence without touching it with her feet. Who had a smile on her face as she was jumping back over. Who would ignore you when you called for her until finally cornered, then would roll over on her back and offer up her belly as if to say you were sorry, but you just couldn’t help it.
You wanted to run and jump and smell. And our yard was only so big.
I remember at the dog park when you scaled a 5’ high fence just to see a dog on the other side. No one had ever seen anything like that.
Or when my friend Dave M. brought over his Rhodesian and you two aerated the yard by your constant running.
Or taking you on a 5 mile run and you never slowing down once.
Or you and Lulu pulling on the leash every time we went by a sewer drain in order to see if any small fuzzy things were in there.
Or you going nuts when you caught the scent of that deer up on Moore.
Or the way your ears pinned back this morning on your final walk when you and Lulu saw that fox crossing the street down near Plum.
Or the way you hesitantly went into the cold water near Difficult Run in the fall of 2011, then plunged in and jumped around until you were shivering from cold on your first swim.
Or the way you would get so upset when we went to the playground and you were tied to the stroller and you wanted to come in. You would yip and yip and yip. There was no consoling you.
Or the way everyone would compliment how pretty you looked and ask what type of a dog you were.
I could go on and on and I hope to come back and add more memories because YOU WERE A GOOD DOG, despite what they decided.
It wasn’t your fault you were hard wired that way.
We thought we were the right parents for you, but you would have been best off on some farm with lots of room to run and chase little fuzzy things.
Some farmer would have loved to have had you.
Right now I’m still processing what happened. You were so robust before all of this badness started, but by the end you were skin and bones.
You didn’t like being confined. You could sense there was something wrong. So you stopped eating.
I wonder how much you really knew and how much your body reacted to it.
I was so happy this morning when you let me feed you the pill pockets that I had stuffed with smelly chicken skin. You really seemed to like that, and it felt great to do something, anything, to make you feel better knowing what was going to happen.
I tried to show you all of the affection I had neglected showing you previously in a very short period.
I tried to love on you as much as I could, with a rock sticking in my gut the whole time knowing each minute brought us closer to your death.
I let you come downstairs last night and lay between my legs while I rubbed your head.
It was so bony. I can still feel that bump on top.
I don’t want to forget all the mornings prior to this happening when you were the only dog in the house and you could come downstairs whenever you wanted, because unlike Lulu Fatdog, you didn’t caca and pee everwhere.
I’d be trying to wake up in the morning getting ready to take you for a walk and either be on the computer or on the john, and you’d walk up and flip my hand with your wet nose and demand to be petted. You wouldn’t take no for an answer no matter how mad it made me.
Then you’d take those long fingernailed paws of yours and lay them hard on my forearm and try to get as close to me as possible.
Some tried to misinterpret this as an attempt to show dominance, but that wasn’t it at all. You just wanted to be loved as fully and completely as possible. And to some extent I think we failed you.
We probably got a dog too early after Piggy died, but you didn’t deserve what happened. You were a good, sweet dog, and we want everyone to know that despite what they said.
You just didn’t have much of a chance, though we tried our best to give it to you.
I can’t make this any better than it is. It’s a completely shitty situation and I feel like we failed you. And it cost your life.
Then again, I have to remind myself you did what you did, even though that was just part of who you were.
I’m just at a loss on how to make sense of any of this and actually don’t think I have to.
But I didn’t want the end for you to be one of ignominy.
For the short time we had you, you brought much joy into the life of my family and we will miss you very much.
You will always have a special place in our hearts, and I only wish we could have done more for you.
Goodbye, Sunny. We do and did love you.